pen palz
Recently, a friend shared his thoughts on chivalry and essentially guffawed at those who do not believe it is dead. I am thrilled to be living in a world promoting equality of both men and women, however I can’t help but pick out the gaps in this system. The American woman has come a long way from the 1300’s, but it seems as though the chivalry is the only practice abandoned by men. Male egotism contributing to both confidence and dominance seems to be non-dissipative. Still today, men are quick to pass judgement on those women who ask men out on dates, buy men drinks at a bar, or even indulge in sexual behavior. These behaviors are still regarded as unconventional; in fact, males being uncomfortable with these behaviors is what is preventing anymore progress. For the sake of playing Devil’s advocate, it is not surprising why many women expect men to pay the dinner bill; the man insists on playing the dominant role (by asking the woman out, etc), consequently leading the subservient woman to “lean” on the male for defense, money,etc. Male dominance has caused such a large hindrance that even centuries later we are still only on the brink of progressing politically. Women have evidently progressed in numerous ways since the 1300’s, but need men to let go of their egotism. It is unfair to have women be independent in only ways that are convenient for men. We’re ready to progress when you are, it’s your move guys.
*Also: As much as I enjoy paying for dinner, buy ing my own drink, and warding off creepy guys on my own- I find it extremely refreshing when men are traditional in the most harmless of ways. For instance, holding the door open for me, asking if I need help lugging my suitcase, and just being friendly without any motives is…too rare.
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